An advice column by Carli Mingus.
Q from Recently Single: Okay so two weeks ago right before I broke up with my boyfriend I met a guy. Had a fun night, but in the morning he said that he wasn't asking for my number because I had a boyfriend. So, he lives close to me and is close with my mutual friends.. we're bound to run into each other at some point. He's not on facebook. I did happen to see his email address at the party from a list that was going around.. its really easy, like just his name, so I'm not a total freak.
What should I do, if anything now? I haven't been single for a long time.. is this the type of thing you let go and maybe I'll see him maybe I won't.. or should I pursue it at all? I just want to make sure that I'm not a total freak.
A: You have 2 options here. 1) the most preferable option is to go through your friends. Call one of them and try to get THEM to get HIM to go out with you all at some point, so that you don't seem like the one who tried to get him to go out with you. Plus then it is a group event and you have the chance to really see if you like him or if he is a jerk. 2) You can use the email you got through the party list, but just make sure you have a back up excuse for how you got it (ie - you don't remember? you gave it to me the other night - you must have had too much to drink, lol ;) OR just say that one of your friends gave it to you). The second choice is a little more iffy, depending on the vibe that you all had. Some boys may be creeped out by that, but some may not even wonder how you got their email address.
FOLLOW UP - she chose opion 1 and he ended up being busy and they never got together BUT...
Q2 From Recently Single: I met another guy out this weekend, and he is amazing and has washboard abs and is soooo hot. We hung out and he asked for my number. He told me he was going to call me soon, then called the next evening to chat with me. Then he hinted at maybe hanging out the next weekend together, and told me we'd be in touch. How long should I wait before texting him/calling him back?
A2: If he told you he was going to get in touch with you, probably better to not contact him. Most guys know that girls need to make plans in advance, and if he doesn't respect you enough to let you know in time to make plans, he's probably a moron. I wouldn't call or text at all, and if he calls you last minute on Friday you should act like you have plans and will have to do it a different night, so he doesn't think you are sitting around waiting for him (even if you are).
Follow up - he called on Thurdsay to lock in weekend plans, and they ended up going on multiple dates over the weekend.
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